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What a year...
My father passed last week...very hard. I won't be in for a while, just wanted everyone to know.
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Originally posted by wenchofthelodge:
What a year...
My father passed last week...very hard. I won't be in for a while, just wanted everyone to know.
That's very sad news. I hope you're ok.
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My Mom passed away last Monday..I'm sorry wenchie..I know what your feeling...
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Originally posted by Pig Iron:
My Mom passed away last Monday..I'm sorry wenchie..I know what your feeling...
Jesus, man, I am really sorry to hear that.
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quote:
Originally posted by Pig Iron:
My Mom passed away last Monday..I'm sorry wenchie..I know what your feeling...
Pig Iron: I am sooooo sorry! My sympathies are with you.
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quote:
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My Mom passed away last Monday..I'm sorry wenchie..I know what your feeling...
My deepest sympathy.
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Wenchie and Pig Iron, my prayers are with you and your families.
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Wenchie...Pig Iron...I'm so very sorry for your loss. I lost my dad when I was 17 so if either of you need to talk, please, don't hesitate to do so.
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Wenchie and Pig Iron: I'm very sorry for your losses--- my father passed away on March 9 after a long struggle with cancer, so I definitely know how you both feel.
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Matt,
I am so sorry for your loss as well.
My dad went so fast, in two days he was gone. I guess it's better that way though, he didnt' have to suffer. I am sure that our loved ones we have lost are in a far better place than we are......
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Wenchie...Pig Iron...I'm so very sorry for your loss.
I lost my dad when I was 17 so if either of you need to talk, please, don't hesitate to do so.
Thanks, Bianca.....that must have been so hard for you. I will remember that, if I need to talk. I am so grateful to everyone that has been giving me support... They been especially wonderful through it all.
My dad was much older than most dad's. He was 82. (I am 34)He had been sick on and off for a while, but it was still a shock.....He was fine and then, he fell at home, went to the hospital where we were told he had pneumonia and then he went unresponsive in a few hours and that was it.....
At least I got to say all the things I wanted to say while I sat with him (they say hearing is the last to go). He was "awake" briefly the evening before he died; and he looked at me and he said, "Thank you."
I will miss him......
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At least I got to say all the things I wanted to say while I sat with him (they say hearing is the last to go). He was "awake" briefly the evening before he died; and he looked at me and he said, "Thank you."
I will miss him......
Ah. That is really good. I didn't get the chance with my mum. It sounds perverse, but I'm jealous. Its good you got the chance to say what you needed to say.
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Eh... I dig where you're coming from, with the sorrow and depression and all that.
My Brother and his woman had a child a month ago... it died after four days. I've been a sad drunk ever since, and my brother has gone crazy.
Don't let it get to you. Talk about it with someone. Cry, drink, scream... whatever. Don't internalize this shit.
I feel tired now...
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Eh... I dig where you're coming from, with the sorrow and depression and all that.
My Brother and his woman had a child a month ago... it died after four days. I've been a sad drunk ever since, and my brother has gone crazy.
Don't let it get to you. Talk about it with someone. Cry, drink, scream... whatever. Don't internalize this shit.
I feel tired now...
That's pretty heartbreaking. 9 months of getting excited about a baby, and then that.
That was our biggest worry with our kid. Your brother is going through every parent's most horrific nightmare.
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Actually, it was five months. She had it premature, and it was fine until the day after the hospital did a transfusion after taking blood from the kid.
We'll never know why it died, and that's the pain in the ass.
Only thing you can do is deal with it the best way you can.
I'd like to help my brother, but he won't talk to anyone. Gonna have to corner him with one of these big cheap bottles of bourbon I keep drinking from one day...
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Well, I thank everyone for their kind and thoughtful blessings. I had a good 1 1/2 weeks with my Mom, and a shitty 1 1/2 watching her fade away..But I had discussed everything I needed to years ago when she was first diagnosed..as I thought it was important then..so all I had to do was spend time with her and love her..so that was a blessing..and I was there at the end. I'm thankful for that and i'm thankful that she only had a few weeks of unbearable pain..rather than the months she could have had if her bones had weakened any more than they did... as it stands her kidneys basically poisoned her rather than her bones basically disentegrating... Multiple Myaloma is just one of many horrific cancers..
It's just so ironic that she took such good care of herself..didn't drink or smoke and was fit...
while my dad has been an alcoholic most of his life and is still plugging along fine...
ironic, but I'm thankful I still have my dad ...
losing a nephew or niece would be horrible FNB..I can't imagine it really..that seems like one of the worst things besides a child or spouse...
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Well personally, I can't imagine losing a parent at this point.
Besides the emotional shit it would bring, it would entail taking over a business, finances, and so much other shit... and having the lil' fucker die (that's what I would've called him had he lived.. .so it's not offensive to me) just brought all these thoughts to the foreground.
I do feel for y'all who have been dealing with death. Yeah, I'm a bastard, but I do know what y'all are going through.
Now, back to my Col's Pride.
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Ah. That is really good. I didn't get the chance with my mum. It sounds perverse, but I'm jealous. Its good you got the chance to say what you needed to say.
It's not perverse...quite normal actually. I feel the same way. I didn't get that chance with my father either and he was only 40.
I saw him that morning, and then he was gone...car accident. No time to say those kinds of things.
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At least I got to say all the things I wanted to say while I sat with him (they say hearing is the last to go). He was "awake" briefly the evening before he died; and he looked at me and he said, "Thank you."
I will miss him......
Ah. That is really good. I didn't get the chance with my mum. It sounds perverse, but I'm jealous. Its good you got the chance to say what you needed to say.
No, it's not perverse...
I knew he was dying, and I wanted to get all those things in before. I wish he could have talked back though.
But, no, it's not perverse. Say what you need to say to your mom....maybe she will hear you. They say that "the dead" are always around us....
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Originally posted by First National Bastard:
Eh... I dig where you're coming from, with the sorrow and depression and all that.
My Brother and his woman had a child a month ago... it died after four days. I've been a sad drunk ever since, and my brother has gone crazy.
Don't let it get to you. Talk about it with someone. Cry, drink, scream... whatever. Don't internalize this shit.
I feel tired now...
How awful! That is truly every parents nightmare. My sympathies to you and your family.
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Originally posted by Pig Iron:
Well, I thank everyone for their kind and thoughtful blessings. I had a good 1 1/2 weeks with my Mom, and a shitty 1 1/2 watching her fade away..But I had discussed everything I needed to years ago when she was first diagnosed..as I thought it was important then..so all I had to do was spend time with her and love her..so that was a blessing..and I was there at the end. I'm thankful for that and i'm thankful that she only had a few weeks of unbearable pain..rather than the months she could have had if her bones had weakened any more than they did... as it stands her kidneys basically poisoned her rather than her bones basically disentegrating... Multiple Myaloma is just one of many horrific cancers..
It's just so ironic that she took such good care of herself..didn't drink or smoke and was fit...
while my dad has been an alcoholic most of his life and is still plugging along fine...
ironic, but I'm thankful I still have my dad ...
losing a nephew or niece would be horrible FNB..I can't imagine it really..that seems like one of the worst things besides a child or spouse...
I'm am so glad that she didnt' suffer long! That seems to be worse; to watch a parent, a child, a friend suffer for a long period of time.....
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