Only in your dreams do unfamiliar babes at parties hold up signs urging you to “Come and get it!” In the waking world, you have to decipher more subtle, unconscious signals, according to Allan Pease’s book Signals: How to Use Body Language for Power, Success, and Love.
If She tosses her head… …or lets her hair fall onto her face and peers out from under her cage o’ locks, holding your gaze—you’re in.
If She exposes her wrists… …it’s a subtle come-on. (The bondage imagery won’t be lost on the discriminating male.)
If She spreads her legs… …or strikes a wide-legged stance, she’s either hot for your bones or has a serious thong-wedgie situation.
If She thrusts her foot… …or moves her tootsies in and out of her shoe, it’s more classic nookie symbolism. (Don’t ask her if she’s got bunions.)
If She flashes her neck… …it’s a come-hither sign of passivity. (If she flashes her breasts, you’re either at Mardi Gras or your alarm clock is about to go off.)
If She fondles cylindrical objects… …or starts running her fingers up and down the stem of her wineglass, she’s—well, what do you think?
I've used every single one of those moves...I don't know whether to thank Maxium for letting the guys in on it or hating them taking away some of the mystery that is woman.
The only problem with symbolism is that if you're sufficiently distracted (or stoned, or just have a really sick mind), EVERYTHING could be interpreted as a SIGNAL. Jump to one too many conclusions and you're FUBAR. This I know from experience.
Brian... you sound like a real shy guy, you probably have gotten them already but have not yet identified them. I have people tell me that all the time. I don't see it when guys do it at all.
Another sure fire way to tell if a girl likes you...the giggle and the shove. It is a true-ism. I have tried fighting it, but it is a true-ism. If, when talking with a woman, she begins to goggle and gives you a playful shove, you're in.
hmm... and I thought I was just being too insensitive. Y'know me with my crass jokes and one-liners.
How 'bout this one: intense eye contact. About a year and a half back, I was in a Waldenbooks chillin' with my copy of Thoreau's Walden (yes, I read Thoreau mthrfcker) and I sat maybe six feet across from a goth chick. She was good looking, and for a second, we made eye contact. Yet she wouldn't. stop. staring. So here I am trying to read the gobdamned book and she's probably putting an incantation on my ass. I didn't look at her again, but with my peripheral vision, I could see her not even reading whatever she had and just fixing her gaze on me. Six minutes later, I left with her still staring a hole into the back of my head.
I have gotten that one from the girl who kissed me (the only girl who's ever kissed me, BTW) right before she initiated the kiss. For the sake of objectivity, I will admit she was inebriated, though.
...I always give that "I want to slice you from throat to nuts" look when I'm interested in a guy....
Seriously...most woman really fail when trying to give the "come hither" look. It usually translates into "I want to suck the sweet nectar from your intestines". Or it would be a bad hair day and she was super sensative about you starring.