what if it was her that cold cocked him? I guarantee everyone would have laughed at him and nobody would be talking about it now, weeks after it was initially reported. look at the Solange/Jay Z incident...people just laughed. just because women are considered the "weaker sex" men are punished more for being violent when there is no difference at all. every guy who says they would never hit a woman and would find a way to restrain her have never been in the warpath of a violent pissed off female. I have permanent scars on my arms and forehead from trying to restrain an incredibly drunk chick who I got into an argument with and the only reason I got away without more severe damage was because I slammed her into the ground and knocked her out. I almost went to jail but didn't go because witnesses said I tried to get away but she kept attacking and she still tried to press charges. oh, and did anyone step in the help me? no because I'm a big dude and they thought I could take care of myself.
That's some wild insight, and it's true.
There's definitely a double-standard, and I've read several articles over the years about countless men nationwide who are abused by women, and just find it too humiliating to report. I never thought of police not taking it seriously when reported, but I can see that occurring too.
I was in a similar situation as you back in 1991 when I broke up with a girl (Lynda). It was a girlfriend who'd moved back to France and came back un-announced a year later to "surprise" me. When her friend (Enri) didn't have room to let her stay there as originally planned, I let her stay with me. We'd argued a lot before she went back to France and I wanted to end it on a good not a year later by giving her a very appreciated few days while she was in town.
In a nutshell, she found out that I'd dated and almost married another girl (Maria) after she went back to France, and was insanely jealous. Enri had told her how much I adored Maria. I told her I'd tried to give her the same adoration, but she didn't appreciate it.
She insulted me.
I called her a bitch.
She backhanded me hard, and I didn't see it coming. I asked her what words she'd use to describe her behavior. She raised her hand again, and I braced for the impact. But instead of hitting me a second time, she went back the guest room and closed the door. In my mind, I had thought if she came after me aggressively punching continuously, I'd defensively keep my arms up and get out the door. It was only after she'd left the room that I realized it had never occurred to me to hit her back.
Relative to your situation, I was extremely lucky, both on the lack of sustained physical assault, and on her not vindictively pressing charges after.
Earlier in the evening, we'd gone to Blockbuster together and then watched the movie she selected just before the argument. In odd appropriateness,
Sleeping With the Enemy.
