i have no issue with xmas displays as long as it's not in a govt office
Then you have a problem with Xmas displays. There's no wiggle room there. Either you are for it, or against it.
just because I chose xtianity as my religion doesn't mean i'm fine with it being pushed by a govt entity
Rethink. If you have chosen a religion, then you are acceptable of its presence in your life, no matter the geographic or social location. Otherwise, it's a country club card, and has as much relevance in your life.
which is supposed to remain neutral.
The US government was founded on the principal of religious freedom. Thus, they have no right to censor religious holidays. Thus, neutrality should play no part.