So do you beleive in love at first site? That there is a person for everyone to love? Finding love over the internet, personal adds, or dateing services? Have you ever been in love? Do you have any stories, tellem.
From the moment I first saw my wife I knew she was the girl for me.She is so close to being my dream girl.When you meet the perfect person for you 'you will know it.
quote:Originally posted by allan1: Love stinks.My personal opinion.
There is some truth to that.Love is a fantastic experience.Love can also be a real kick in the nuts,when the person you love stops loving you and leaves you for another. Love can send you soaring or knock you to the ground.
Personaly I think love is great if you find the right person other wise there really isint any point to it.
I've watched my mom and dad fight constantly and nether one of them want to get rid of the other due to this thing called 'love'.
For what reason? I have no clue other than to say there scared.
This makes me think, is love realy worth it?
Is it realy worth tareing your self apart for another person just because your 'love' them?
Why argue over something that has no end?
And if your not happy with your 'love' why torture your self because you so call love the person?
I know that all love is not like this. But I have watched other people find 'love' and then boom it falls apart.
What gets me is, I've noticed people in love are never satisfied. They always want more from one another whether it be sex, time together, or what not. It's like an addition with no patch to cure it.
Once you have fallin in love and it ends, you never get over it. Ya sure maybe you think you have but in reality you haveint. And deep down it leaves a scar that wont heal, it might be a very tiny scar but its there nevertheless, and because of that it effects you whole life of relationships, whether you realize it or not.
Its always I must be with him/her. Nothing can tare us apart but our oun selfs!
Puh, strange. Why hurt your self over love and to be love or to feel loved.
It doseint make any sence.
Another thing that gets me is. If you try to convince the person they are in a dead end love. They dont listen to you.
Love blinds you so badly its pathetic.
I'm not saying I will never give myself up to love. I'm saying if that love is not pure I'm not going to waste my energy, heart, and sole on it.
Love can be like fools gold. You think it is pure to discover, its not.
quote:Originally posted by Lor: Personaly I think love is great if you find the right person other wise there really isint any point to it.
I've watched my mom and dad fight constantly and nether one of them want to get rid of the other due to this thing called 'love'.
For what reason? I have no clue other than to say there scared.
This makes me think, is love realy worth it?
Is it realy worth tareing your self apart for another person just because your 'love' them?
Why argue over something that has no end?
And if your not happy with your 'love' why torture your self because you so call love the person?
I know that all love is not like this. But I have watched other people find 'love' and then boom it falls apart.
What gets me is, I've noticed people in love are never satisfied. They always want more from one another whether it be sex, time together, or what not. It's like an addition with no patch to cure it.
Once you have fallin in love and it ends, you never get over it. Ya sure maybe you think you have but in reality you haveint. And deep down it leaves a scar that wont heal, it might be a very tiny scar but its there nevertheless, and because of that it effects you whole life of relationships, whether you realize it or not.
Its always I must be with him/her. Nothing can tare us apart but our oun selfs!
Puh, strange. Why hurt your self over love and to be love or to feel loved.
It doseint make any sence.
Another thing that gets me is. If you try to convince the person they are in a dead end love. They dont listen to you.
Love blinds you so badly its pathetic.
I'm not saying I will never give myself up to love. I'm saying if that love is not pure I'm not going to waste my energy, heart, and sole on it.
Love can be like fools gold. You think it is pure to discover, its not.
Lust at first sight is a given....don't think love at first sight exists...
Love is something that grows....you have to know about the person to actually love them. You might lust after someone, say, seeing them walk into a bar....only to find out they're a satanist trekkie who sleeps with their grandpaw. But hey, if that's your thing....
I agree with Krazy. Love isn't something based on our own primal urges, like lust is. It needs to be nurtured and grow, hopefully hand-in-hand with the person who you love as well. The "love at first sight" concept has always unnerved me, especially with the divorce rate today being what it is. People are rushing too quickly into a relationship, trusting in "love at first sight" when all they're really experiencing is lust. I can't look at someone and love them. I have to know them. To know someone (and to accept what it is that you know about them) is, in my opinon, love.
Love. The one thing every human searches for their entire lives. Many would say happiness or satisfaction, but both of those are ways of saying they want love as love brings lasting happiness and satisfaction.
Love. The one utterly undefinable aspect of life.
It is simulatneously the scariest and most inviting prospect ever open to us while we walk the Earth. Infinite possibilities encompassing 'fairy-tale endings' and bitter divorces.
Pain. Heartbreak. Despair. Uncertainty. Acceptance. Triumph. Contentment. Joy. All equally describe this thing called love.
The problem with attempting to describe love from an objective point of view is that it is a completely subjective ideal. One cannot discuss love without discussing onesself.
I once had a complete love. I wanted for nothing. Every single expectation had been met and exceeded, and I took my greatest pleasure from her happiness. She and I could spend hours in silence looking at a darkened ceiling; growing closer by listening to the sounds of the other's breathing. My entire manner changed when she was near - quite involuntarily - my maturity and discernment would increase simply by considering her.
I had everything I had ever sought in life.
I also lost everything I ever sought in life.
"The only step left is a huge one, and I don't think I can handle it right now. I still mean everything I said when I gave you the ring, but I just can't have this distraction right now. I'm losing touch with God and focusing too much on myself. I need to work on my relationship with Him and the work at school He wants me to accomplish, and you can't help me there."
After that she got in a car and drove off. I wasn't able to really talk to her for many months afterwards. She left me, still loved me, yet was too afraid to return. To this day it is as if she stabbed my heart but never removed the dagger. The wound does not heal, does not scar, and simply grows worse. Some things, like games or message boards are like morpheine that numb the pain, but invariably I will awaken at some point and the pain will be worse that it ever was before.
Knowing the outcome I would travel back in time and do it all again.
You see, love isn't just about the bliss. Love is as much about the agony I wake with every morning as it is about the euphoria I experience to this day at seeing her IM name pop online. It is said that pain and progress go hand in hand, the same is true of love and loss. The point is not whether love is worth it, but whether you can handle the intensity that perfection brings. Perfect love is pain, and pain is pleasurable. I'm no masochist, but I know that the pain I feel is for her and because of her, therefore I can rejoice.
For the record we never slept together, and I waited 3 months to even kiss her. Do I harbor hopes of reunion? Of course. Do I believe that there would be no possibility of it ending the same way? Of course not. I know her character, I fell in love with it after all. She in deathly afraid of her own inferiority. She is afraid because she reveres me more than I deserve. She believes I couldn't possibly endure her forever, though I know her to be wrong.
That is my story of love, take from it what you will.
avatar, thank you for the gift. i'd like to respond, but morpheus beckons. for anyone interested, a good book to read on the subject is "conditions of love" by john armstrong.
yeah, love is out there, in its trillions of forms. yeah, i've had some of it for myself.
no, i dont think its possible to love someone over the internet. meet them? sure. but you cant love them -- impossible. those who say they can are kidding themselves. (no, im not suggesting that if yer too far away to do it, y'cant be in love... tho thats a great argument. i AM suggesting that there's much more to love than conversation -- especially when you're typing it, and not speaking it).
love is great and it hoits. best thing in the world to have or want, worst thing in the world to lose or do without.
Lust is purely physical...a very primal feeling/emotion/reaction...to physical stimuli. That's how I think of "lust."
That "moment of passion" where...as soon as you were finished, you can't remember how it all began.
I see love as the most complicated human emotion...it can be the bringer of great joy and in the next moment, it'll cut you so fast and deeply that you're stunned and hurt beyond all that you know.
quote:Originally posted by Rob Kamphausen: no, i dont think its possible to love someone over the internet. meet them? sure. but you cant love them -- impossible. those who say they can are kidding themselves. (no, im not suggesting that if yer too far away to do it, y'cant be in love... tho thats a great argument. i AM suggesting that there's much more to love than conversation -- especially when you're typing it, and not speaking it).
Hmm well I fink I know what your sayin there.
And if your saying what I fink your saying III'm gonna haveta disagree with you for once.
Yes there is much more to love than conversations but dont you fall in love with someone threw talking to them?
I see why you would say about that typeing bit for you cant see the persons expressions nor hear it in their voise.
I beleive you can find love over the net. And also I'm not like other people. I have fallin in love with someone one time over the net. We'd chat, and we even wrote to each other. The only reason I'm not with (and I mean standing beside him) him now is we had totaly different views on something so we called it quits.
I could acctually feel him threw the comp, like when he signed on and how he was feeling, wierd but true.
I find myself fallin once again for someone. Shhh I'd tell but its a secert No it aint anyone from this board! lol
Sorry guys
Anyway I've also read wonderful stories of people who found their love this way.
The only thing is you have to be SUPER careful. Cause again you dont know exactully whos on the other line.
I dont know if I have a point or not so I'm gonna go with...
I guess I'm more open to these things then most people and I'm always gonna give something different a try.
quote:Yes there is much more to love than conversations but dont you fall in love with someone threw talking to them?
talking, sure.
using "emoticons"? naw.
you can get a sense of how a person thinks, but... <--- there, case n'point. that lil "..." bit can mean just about anything. its like "smurf." i use it all the time.
it just doesnt even compare to a 'real' conversation. its like the cliff note version of a book -- y'might have enough to pass the test, but... you're not really getting anything out of it.
quote:I could acctually feel him threw the comp, like when he signed on and how he was feeling, wierd but true.
eh, mebbe. doesnt sound likely, tho. mebbe 'twas a crush. or even an obsession (not in a bad way) like some people have on tv stars, or musicians, or whatever.
i just think "love" is waaay too big to be able to be based solely off of " " n'stuff
eh, mebbe. doesnt sound likely, tho. mebbe 'twas a crush. or even an obsession (not in a bad way) like some people have on tv stars, or musicians, or whatever.
Heh, it likely deary. I have the sixth sence you know. It never lead me to a dead end yet!
Plus no crush, and no not obsession either, thats just way to nutty even for me.
quote:i just think "love" is waaay too big to be able to be based solely off of " " n'stuff
lol true.
All I'm sayin is dont knock it til youve tryed it!
