avatar, thank you for the gift. i'd like to respond, but morpheus beckons. for anyone interested, a good book to read on the subject is "conditions of love" by john armstrong.
http://www.amazon.co.uk/exec/obidos/ASIN/0713994738/qid=1020158023/sr=2-1/ref=sr_2_3_1/202-1084735-2813401
-kassandra
