I guess it's my turn.
Will things work out with bugoo? I can't say for sure, but he does strike me as someone more ... ?genuine?
As for your ex... he left you after three years you'll never get back because he needed to find something? I could have sworn he "found" another girl. What he really ought to do is get himself found.
If you have anything that belongs to him, mail it back. If he has anything of yours that you can afford to lose, let him keep it as a parting gift. If he wants to talk, tell him that you see his lips moving, but all you can hear is
this. He needs to realize that was HIS decision that brought you to the point where you're at now, and it's still far to early to determine what the future holds. He made his own bed and has to lie in it.
I hope that didn't sound cold or anything. That's just how I see it...